Couples Counseling

Couples counseling can be an experience that supports the health, growth and impact of your relationship.

As you know, relationships are important to feeling satisfied and fulfilled in life. Most of your life is impacted by your relationships. The quality of your relationships can affect the quality of your life. According to relationship and marriage expert Dr. John Gottman, couples wait an average of six years of being unhappy before seeking couples therapy. This dynamic can result in years of resentment, conflict and hurt to build up. Therefore couples therapy for your relationship is so important to do before it is too late. A healthy relationship can have a positive impact on the rest of your life.

Couples counseling can help you:

  • Process your past relational experiences which can impact your current relationships.
  • Develop awareness and appreciation for you and your partner’s unique strengths and perspectives.
  • Create specific solutions to your communication challenges.
  • Improve your ability to resolve conflict.
  • Strengthen your relationship commitments and intentions.
  • Reduce relational triggers that cause conflict.
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My goal for couples therapy is to create a collaborative experience in which you and your partner are able to develop awareness about the unique dynamics operating in your relationship. My hope is that you and your partner are able to consciously build a relationship that is fulfilling and satisfying. I believe compassion, acceptance, empathy and encouragement are foundational values I use to interact with clients in couples therapy. We will work together to create tangible goals and solutions with achievable action plans that will provide you and your partner the ability to address the specific complexities in your relationship.

Focus Areas

There are many different focuses areas you can explore in couples therapy. Here are a few:

  • Communication
  • Conflict resolution
  • Intimacy and vulnerability
  • Extended family issues
  • Empathy and encouragement
  • Relational dynamics
  • Past relational pain
  • Parenting and family dynamics
  • Appreciation for each others strengths
  • Life transitions, first child, empty nest
  • Sexual intimacy
  • Legacy and relationship impact